June 05, 2022
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Today’s podcast is a little different. Suze starts out reflecting about her 71st birthday and an important message about parents.
MUSIC: Music Intro.
Suze: June 5, 2022. Yeah. It is, it is my birthday today.
Suze: My 71st birthday.
Suze: Did I ever ever think
Suze: that I would be essentially the exact same age that my father was when he died.
Suze: That I'm literally
Suze: five or 6 years older
Suze: then my mother was
Suze: when my father died.
Suze: And on my birthday I really think about
Suze: sharing this day with my mother and my father
Suze: because the three of us
Suze: made this possible
Suze: and I have been spending a lot of time
Suze: daydreaming about my mom and the looks on her face when she would be so afraid as she was getting older
Suze: and so many memories of my father and what he went through and how he suffered and how ill he was and how he went to work, no matter what,
Suze: when he should have been in the hospital, he still went to work
Suze: because he had to provide for his family.
Suze: He had to provide for me.
Suze: And the one thing that I've realized
Suze: As I now am 71 years old,
Suze: I realize that when we're younger,
Suze: we don't have a clue
Suze: what our parents are really feeling.
Suze: We don't have a clue
Suze: about their fears or their anger or their shame or their worries or their insecurities or anything about them.
Suze: We still, when we were younger, 20,30, possibly even 40,
Suze: we're still wrapped up in our own lives and what we're going through. And usually our parents never let us in to the real tragedies or the fears or whatever is going on in their lives.
Suze: They always say it's okay. I'm okay.
Suze: They put on a face for the children
Suze: because God forbid the children should know anything is going wrong.
Suze: But even as I was an adult,
Suze: I really didn't get it.
Suze: I would look at my mom
Suze: and I was more wrapped up in
Suze: the things that she either wanted from me which was showing off who I was versus just wanting to spend time with me or whatever it may be, I was more caught up in mom,
Suze: why can't you be like this or do this or say that or whatever it may be.
Suze: I never took the time
Suze: to be in my mother's shoes and what it must be like
Suze: to get older to be 92 to be 95 to know you're closer to death
Suze: and to just,
Suze: I don't know be there.
Suze: I never took that time
Suze: to transport myself into my father's body,
Suze: My father's fear,
Suze: my mother's
Suze: I never did that
Suze: and sure I went through all the actions of what a great daughter should do a great child, taking care of them in every way I possibly could
Suze: to the day, especially that my mama died
Suze: what I realized
Suze: on this birthday... deeply realized
Suze: is what a mistake that was
Suze: and that if I had a wish
Suze: if I had a wish for this world
Suze: for everybody,
Suze: what I would really wish is for those of you that are younger
Suze: or that still have parents because I don't have my parents anymore
Suze: is that
Suze: we just
Suze: put ourselves into their shoes,
Suze: maybe see their life through their eyes
Suze: and imagine
Suze: what they may be going through.
Suze: Because honestly everybody, if I could turn back
Suze: the hands of time,
Suze: I would change that so much. You know, I used to say if I could turn back the hands of time, I wouldn't change anything
Suze: and I wouldn't change anything because everything that I've been through has made me who I am today, even when I'm just talking about,
Suze: but I would want to change back
Suze: The hands of time with this one thing
Suze: and that would be to show my mother in particular
Suze: my mother
Suze: that I understood her fear
Suze: and I didn't care what she said to me and her jabs, but that I was a big enough person
Suze: to be able to understand what it's like to age
Suze: what it's like to go from 71 when you still feel young, when you still, in most cases have your vitality, you really can't believe that one day you're gonna be 80 and one day you're gonna be 90 and then you're going to be 97 then you're gonna die right around there somewhere,
Suze: It's even at the age of 71,
Suze: I sit here in denial that I'm really
Suze: going to get older older.
Suze: Do you know what I'm talking about? Everybody, Of course you do.
Suze: And so
Suze: I want us not to do that anymore and really understand our parents
Suze: because the one thing that we really
Suze: should be most grateful for
Suze: is our parents
Suze: and no matter what kind of relationship we have with them, or no matter what damage they did or whatever it may be,
Suze: we have our lives
Suze: because of them.
Suze: And so
Suze: I want us to love our lives.
Suze: But for those of you who do have your parents still,
Suze: I'm actually telling you all this because I don't want you to have moments where you're staring out into the nowhere land
Suze: into the ozone
Suze: and replaying things like I do in my head,
Suze: Why didn't I tell my mom that at that moment? Why did I get angry at her because of that. Why didn't I understand what it was like to be a 66 year old widow with really, absolutely no money and what were you going to do?
Suze: I wish
Suze: that I could have understood that.
Suze: I wish
Suze: that I could have taken the time to put away my stuff
Suze: and to honor my mama for every single thing that she went through because then
Suze: I would be sitting here on my birthday
Suze: and I would have different thoughts.
Suze: I would have different appreciation
Suze: really for myself in many ways.
Suze: But instead
Suze: I replay all the things that I wish I could change
Suze: so that my mama knew how much she was loved.
Suze: So my father knew how much he was loved
Suze: and they both died knowing
Suze: that they were loved
Suze: by their daughter. What greater gift could I have given to both of them?
Suze: And I'm not exactly sure I gave them that gift.
Suze: So the gift that I want all of you to give to me
Suze: is to make sure you never, ever do that in your life.
Suze: Don't ever do that in your life. And parents...
Suze: You should always make sure of course,
Suze: that you let your kids know how much you love them as well
Suze: and what they mean to you
Suze: because I'm sure that if my mama was still alive
Suze: and she could turn back the hands of time, she would wish that she could have shown me how much she loved me as well.
Suze: So mama,
Suze: we both have things we wished. I'm sure we could have changed.
Suze: But on this day of my birthday I celebrate you. I celebrate my father.
Suze: I celebrate myself
Suze: in that
Suze: I live a life of integrity. I live a life of honesty. I live a life that I love.
Suze: I live a lucky life
Suze: and I thank you and I thank everybody who listens to the Women and Money podcast, all my friends that are in my life, All my enemies that are in my life.
Suze: I thank all of you
Suze: because honest to God,
Suze: I have the perfect
Suze: life. Well that was good timing because I see..
KT: it's KT and Colo we came for a reason? Right? So what's our big reason?
KT: What's today? It's Suze's birthday.
Suze: Are you gonna sing to me?
KT: Wait in english or spanish? Would you like it in spanish, spanish ready?
Colo and KT: (Colo and KT sing "Happy Birthday" in Spanish)
Suze: Thank you. So, Oh Colo, you're so cute. Now, KT...
KT: We need a picture of our studio which is really small. He takes up half of it. So, Suze and I are squished on one end and Colo is on the other end. But he has a very important job this morning for Suze's birthday.
Suze: Well, you invited everybody to send birthday wishes and we sent so, so many.
KT: Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. We've got hundreds of wishes and I asked Colo to help me. Colo chose three that he particularly liked
KT: and he is going to read the birthday wishes.
Suze: Now remember everybody English is not Colo's first laguage, but he's great at it. But so this is a big deal that Colo is reading these now.
Suze: Okay, boyfriend, go for it.
Colo: Okay, I'm going to read this one for Marta M
Colo: and she says happy birthday to my mentor and best human being I know in the financial world.
Suze: May God give you many more happy years with KT. (KT: Yeah, Baby) KT's love.
Suze: How come you picked that one? What did you love about it?
Colo: I love a lot of things about it that she's got the beautiful um
Colo: picture of a beautiful dog. And also I like the KTs in it.
Suze: Of course, he, he he picks them like KT picks them. All right. What else you got there boyfriend?
Colo: I got this one from T.
Colo: He just put the letter "T". Birthday wishes for you to be healthy, safe, strong and secure. I also wish you a year of growing closer in love with KT .
Suze: Did you tell him to pick it that way?
KT: No, but he and I both on the same page all the time. My goodness! What's the third one? Colo?
Colo: This one is from Randy
Colo: and it says good morning, Suze and KT, Suze, my birthday wish for you. Is this to keep living your best life.
Colo: My birthday wish to you includes an abundance of love, abundance of love from each and everyone of us. For all you've both done
Colo: to help others safely and
Colo: manage their money.
Suze: Yeah, baby. But now here's the big thing,
Suze: KT and Colo,
Suze: what are your wishes for me?
Colo: I wish you a happy birthday and lots of healthy more years with us that we love you with all our hearts.
Suze: Thank you and you Miss Travis.
Suze: Oh, KT's crying.
KT: My wish is only one:
KT: that Suze stay so healthy that she never leaves me and Colo alone. Ever.
Suze: There we go...
Colo: and we love you very much.
Suze: Thank you.
Colo and KT: We love you so much. Happy birthday Susie. Happy birthday to you. Happy birthday! So happy birthday! Dear, Suze! Happy one this year.
Suze: Let's go watch the sunrise now.
Robert: Hang on
Robert: before you go do that. Hi everybody. Hi, Suze. It's your producer, Robert.
Robert: I know I'm breaking a rule by breaking into the podcast here, but KT said it would be okay to do today.
Robert: your birthday. I just wanted to thank you on behalf of the entire Women and money Podcast community for being a brilliant light in our lives. You're a constant guiding star.
Robert: You're an open conduit
Robert: the important messages that we need to receive. So again, thank you for that. My wish for you
Robert: continued good health,
Robert: continued peace of spirit
Robert: and continued strength of voice. Happy birthday, my friend. Okay, back to the
Suze: Thank you. Everybody. Thank you for my birthday wishes thank you for being in my life and thank you for allowing me to serve you
Suze: with. Hopefully the best financial advice you could ever find anywhere. Alright everybody, KT,
Suze: there's only one thing that matters when it comes to your money. Do you know what it is, Colo?
Colo: To be safe, strong and secure.
Suze: Yeah! Baby. Happy birthday, everybody, Bye bye.
MUSIC: (Music out)
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